November 28th is Thanksgiving Day, a thoroughly American tradition, now almost 400 years old. For most of us it represents an annual opportunity to sit down with family and good friends, maybe eat and drink too much, and watch the games. There are menu icons and usually a table around which we gather.
Being human, we bring to the dinner our own store of memories, recent or long-past, good or bad, happy or sad. And America’s Thanksgivings, since the first, also occur against a background of national and international circumstances. These can make it easier for some to be more grateful than others.
The two Thanksgivings outlined below took place at very different moments in America’s history. Both contain severe personal crises suffered within a difficult larger context. God was the centerpiece at each. In 1863, God also played something of a Union political role, while the Almighty’s part in 2019 gatherings is somewhat in question.
1621:
America’s children develop early vague images of the first Thanksgiving: Puritans/Pilgrims in funny clothes, Indians, and turkey. Eventually, we learn there was more to it.
The Mayflower landed in November 1620 after a 66-day voyage from Plymouth, England. A year later, the first Thanksgiving was held at Plimuth Plantation, today’s Cape Cod, Mass. Fifty English settlers plus 90 Wampanoag attended.
The purpose of the first Thanksgiving was to thank God for the good harvest and for their survival. The event focused on prayer. Before eating, Governor Bradford read from scripture, including Psalm 100:4: “Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise! Thanks to Him; bless his name.”
A very harsh winter followed their celebration. Pilgrims died and smallpox ravaged the Wampanoag. No Thanksgiving was held in 1622. However, the first viable community of immigrant Americans survived and prospered.
1863: Years later, Thanksgiving was a fixture for American families. President Lincoln’s Proclamation of Thanksgiving, which established a national day to give “Thanks and Praise to our beneficent Father who dwelleth in the Heavens,” was issued amidst the terrible, brutal Civil War that eventually took over 600,000 American lives. He invoked the Almighty, possibly with an eye on the 1864 presidential election, which he won.
His speech cited “God’s Blessings to the Union”: victories of Union forces, economic and population growth, and peace abroad, calling them “the gracious gifts of the Most High God, who, while dealing with us in anger for our sins, hath yet Mercy.” The proclamation hinted that the Civil War was divine punishment for the Confederacy, and said about the Union that “…the country, rejoicing in the consciousness of augmented strength and vigor, is permitted to expect continuance of years with large increase of freedom...”
2019: Americans today live in a turbulent 21st Century swamped by too much information 24/7. Many are confused, others are certain and confident. No Civil War, but Americans are seriously divided and the U.S. military is fighting and dying in foreign conflicts. As always, we gather on Thanksgiving with our own concerns, successes, and losses in mind.
While people in 1621 and 1863 looked to God for help, religions no longer occupy the same constant, central place in American lives. According to a Gallup poll (2018) and a Pew poll (2019), only 50% of Americans are members of a Christian church (65% of total), a Jewish synagogue, or a Muslim mosque. Among Millennials, it’s 33%, while 23% stated they had no religious affiliation.
Americans are more “shareful” in 2019 than in earlier centuries. Many Thanksgiving dinners now include friends we know well, as well as relatives. But the past few years have seen an increase in advice articles on how to avoid holiday anger and distress caused by political differences among family, with a common recommendation being total avoidance of controversial topics in order to keep the peace.
But at the end of the day, Thanksgiving is about giving thanks, and, in the words of Alice Walker, “Thank you is the best prayer that anyone could say. It expresses gratitude, humility, understanding.”
Happy Thanksgiving from all of us at Common Sense for the Eastern Shore.
Past Perspectives on Gratitude and Related Emotions:
Voltaire: “Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.”
Cicero: “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.”
Oscar Wilde: “The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention.”
Mark Twain: “Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.”
William Faulkner: “Gratitude is a quality similar to electricity; it must be produced and discharged and used up in order to exist at all.”