The 2020 holiday season will undoubtedly be remembered — not at all fondly — as the first in living memory when a significant number of Americans did not celebrate with a large family gathering. The covid-19 pandemic has forced us to change more than one long-standing tradition. But, perhaps not surprisingly, modern technology has provided a way to touch base with the family members we can’t visit in person. Are you ready for a Zoom Christmas?
Zoom got its start as a video conferencing software package for virtual meetings. A system that lets up to 100 people “meet” in real time, Zoom works on anything from a cell phone to a full-scale computer. The app was launched in 2013, but it really took off in 2020 when the pandemic hit, and face-to-face meetings of any kind were suddenly a Very Bad Idea. Suddenly people who’d never before heard of the app were Zooming board meetings, college classes, and panel discussions — and it didn’t take long for them to realize it would also work for social occasions.
My wife and I had been using Zoom since April, when a couple of boards we’re on began to use the app. So we had a fair sense of how the app works when one of my cousins in New Mexico set up a family reunion back in early October. It was a nice chance to reconnect with some of my younger relatives — most of whom I hadn’t seen in years — and a few of their spouses and kids I was meeting for the first time. It was followed up with a few email exchanges of old family photos, to remind everyone of how people used to look.
Election night brought a different kind of get-together, when we spontaneously joined a few friends — most of whom are in the Pacific Northwest — for an online election-watching party. Again, all went smoothly, although a couple of voices tended to dominate. A few days later, we had another get-together with a group of friends all originally from the D.C. area, though a couple have moved to the West Coast since we last saw them.
When Thanksgiving was on the horizon, we suggested a virtual family get-together with the family members — on my mother’s side — with whom we’ve spend the last 20-or-so Thanksgivings at my cousin Don’s farm in Virginia. Don’s granddaughter Olivia, who has a full-featured Zoom account as part of her graduate program in upstate New York, set up the meeting. On Thanksgiving afternoon, 14 family members from six states gathered virtually to catch up, share stories, and see each other, many of us for the first time since last Thanksgiving. We couldn’t share food and drink, but for all other purposes we did get to spend the holiday together for an hour or so. Best of all, Olivia, who was just recovering from a bout of covid-19, was able to take part without endangering any of the rest of us.
She captured a screenshot of the gathering (reproduced above) and sent it to all of us. I put it up on FaceBook, and this prompted three of my friends to report that they’d had a similar family Zoom Thanksgiving. One said that, like our group, she’d had four generations present. Another friend commented that she wished she’d bought Zoom stock a year ago!
But wait — there’s more! One of the
Common Sense
editors and writers, Jan Plotczyk, is holding a Zoom presentation of a family Christmas play that she wrote — the plot features an eight-year-old niece who’s shopping for the perfect gift for her younger brother. Everyone’s been sent scripts, costumes, and props, and should have their parts down pat by performance time. And locally, the Garfield Center held auditions and rehearsals for its holiday season play – “(Stay) Home for the Holidays” – by Zoom. You can get a link to see the play
online
through January 3 – it’s another fun way to enjoy the season safely. There’s a suggested $10 donation.
So if you’ve been concerned — as I think most of us have — about seeing family for the holidays, here’s your solution. You can get a free personal Zoom account that will let you host a 40-minute session for up to 100 people — enough to allow just about anyone’s family to join in the meeting. Or for $149.90 a year, you can get a pro license that lets you have unlimited longer meetings. Just go to the
website
to see the options. And the learning curve isn’t that complicated. If you haven’t been using Zoom, odds are there’s someone in your family who has, and who can set up the meeting for everyone. You can take screen shots (like the one at the top of this article), and even record the entire meeting for posterity and share it on YouTube.
There are several other apps — not to forget the trusty old phone call — that can help us get together with family and friends. There’s Skype, FaceTime, and Messenger and live-streaming on Facebook, among others. But Zoom is probably the most popular these days. And you can always put up a YouTube video of your household celebration.
When you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, and New Year’s Eve — now you can do it safely from your own device. Happy Holidays from
Common Sense for the Eastern Shore! Let us know how you spend your holidays!
Peter Heck
is a Chestertown-based writer and editor, who spent 10 years at the Kent County News and three more with the Chestertown Spy. He is the author of 10 novels and co-author of four plays, a book reviewer for Asimov’s and Kirkus Reviews, and an incorrigible guitarist.